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I am now the proud owner of a $1001 document that outlines who owns what between my ex and I. That’s cheap! But don’t think it didn’t hurt to transfer the money into the striped suited ones account.
We had waited six months for his lawyer to write a draft. Six months! If I was writing these for a living I’d have a basic template and a basic interview and I’d knock ’em out like buns in a bakery.
To get things moving along I surfed the net to find out what was required and wrote up a draft. Then I got the ex to read it and made some changes. Then I consulted the list of lawyers my colleagues had recommended and contacted the one with the best parking. I told the lawyer I didn’t want to waste money. We set a price. We added a few extras like some arrangements about what we do about Christmas.
Then off it went to his lawyer. A month passed. My ex came up with a change – the sentence he’d contributed to the document wasn’t what he meant. We made the change. Finally word came that the agreement was signed and ready for my X. I drive to my lawyer. Reading through it I saw that my ex and his lawyer have signed the earlier copy. If I’d signed it it would mean an extra ten thousand dollars for me.
I pointed it out. Yeah, I know.
We printed out the right copy I signed that and we sent it off to the sink hole of time management his lawyer seemed to be.
Thursday I heard that the document was completed. Anticlimax. Now we follow the agreement and maybe by the end of the month my house will be mine (and the banks). ‘
If you want a copy of my agreement to use to draft your own just let me know.
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This sounds too good to be true – I’d love a copy. thanks for offering to share.
Thanks for your story, I’m trying to draft my own agreement and would really appreciate a copy of yours.
Sonia
I would like to get a copy of yours. Thanks you very much for your offering.
I hope its helpful for you – I always say I wish we had put in a review period for the kids because 16 is along time to wait till you can choose by law where you live and also that we had put in arrangements about the joint liability of our dog. Vet bills can be expensive! It is winging its way to you now.
Hey struggling to get this together and the lawyers just quote $800 to draft this up for me and I’d rather save this money now – would you still have a copy of the separation agreement to share please?
Hi
I’d love one too if you are still providing them ..
No problems – coming to you now…….
Please send a copy. Thanks in advance.
Hello, I’d be delighted to receive a copy, as I don’t really trust lawyers (bad experiences!), thanks
Would love one please
Please send me a copy, as it would be very helpful.
Cheers
ON its way
hi,
Could I get a copy of this too please.
Thanks
Rhys
We’d appreciate a copy please
Hi – could you please send me a copy, much appreciated, thanks…
If still available, please forward me a copy, I’m heading in to see a lawyer this afternoon & I’ve been searching the web for some time for some form of “seperation agreement” template. (after all how different can we all be with 2 kids, 1 mortgage, 2 cars, usual c/card & finance debt etc) As you say, the lawyers seem to drag things out way too long, to what end I’m not sure
Thank you for your story. It has helped me a lot. Please may I have a copy of your agreement.
Many thanks
Cindy
Of course – hope it helps.
I feel terrible asking, but I would love a copy too please. We’ve been separated for 18 months now, so I’m starting to feel like it’s time to get prepared for this side of things. Thanks.
Hi, $1100 later I am no where near getting an agreement from my lawyer or my wife. Stressfull & exasperating. Could I have a copy please?
many thanks
Paul
I think it really pays to agree as much of the detail before the lawyers get invovled. That might be where these documents are most useful because you get thinking about what you have to agree on. You can get yur own list of chattels together, list your options as a starting point and maybe even use some of the free counseling a lot of work places have available to get some of the negotiation done …. before you hit the lawyers. I’m sending you the agreements and hope they help.
Would love a copy please, thanks so much for offering!
Hi – Would love one of these to get the process started. Thank you so much.
Hiya . . . can you please send me a copy would really appreciate it!
Hey,
Can I please have a copy – I am drowing to find something helpful on line, and could really do without the extra pain. Thanks in advanced
I would greatly appreciate a copy also. Hope you still have the patience to send one. Mike
Gidday, I’d really appreciate a copy if you’re still happy to send it.
Many thanks in advance,
Sonya
On it’s way – best of luck for a smooth settlement.
Thanks for the agreements. They’re exactly what I was looking for and now I’ve got a clear idea of what I’m doing.
Cheers!
I’d appreciate a copy also if possible.
many thanks.
Would love a copy please, thanks so much for offering!
Hey, just found this site and would also appreciate a copy so that i have something to work on…thanks so much!
Hi. Love you blog. Some great reading and tips in bringing up kids under a separation. Please can I get a copy of your agreement? Thanks!
I’d appreciate a copy please if possible, it’d give me some good insights,
thank so much for sharing
Can I have a copy please, first timer. Regards
I would really appreciate a copy (if you’re still happy to share. It’s a scarey time, having some guidance would be wonderful. Thanks!
Will you please send me a copy of the separation agreement you have drafted? I am about to separate and want to sort it out amicably. Don’t have money to pay for lawyers, rather would pay for son’s education.
Hiya…what an inspiration….can I possibly trouble you for a copy please….thanking you
No problem
Thank you so much Deb for your generous help.
Thank you so much for such an open & generous offer of assistance. My lawyer seems to be doing a great job of leading me around the merri-go-round with no real progress other than more billing hours. I would really appreciate a copy emailed to me. Thanks
On their way – hope they speed the process and reduce the cost.
Could I please have a copy of the arrangement. Many, many thanks.
Mate, would love a copy if still available. Interesting times for all. Ta.
No worries mate
I’d lvoe a copy if possible please – distressing times. Thanks
Could I please have a copy of the arrangement if it is still available? Thanks.
Could i please also have a copy?
Thank you I would love a copy,please x
Hi – thanks for sharing – I would really appreciate a copy of the agreement so we can get it all sorted and move on. thanks