Surprise! I'm a single parent

I started this blog because I didn’t like the fact that I kept talking about the end of my relationship. I felt sorry for people who had to listen to me. I thought if I started this blog I could dump stuff here and get on to new and interesting conversations with other people. Heck, I might even be able to listen to other people. I was pretty tired of listening to me.

It’s a few years on and I think I’ve found that ending a 15 year relationship with two kids involved (and a dog) is a lot like peeling an onion. There always seems to be another layer.

During these years I haven’t always been single. I’ve had a crazy distance relationship for one thing. I put up with the crazy part because I really loved the person and because I think I thought this relationship gave me the space I needed. Probably because we were never properly together we never really got to test out how compatible we were and I put up with stuff that I probably wouldn’t of if he’d lived in the same town. We broke up quite a few times but he was incredibly good at wooing so we also got back into orbit a  few times.

Anyway I’ve just had my one year anniversary of being single! I think this was a great thing for me to do. A year off relationships. It actually stretched out to about two years. I just got busy with other stuff. I wrote books and did a masters. Now I’m starting a new job and I’m thinking maybe I’ll look out for another relationship. It’s nice to share life with another adult.

1.    Mel 02.06.14 @ 4:27 am      

   I wish you would write more entries into your blog. I’ve only just stumbled upon it by chance but I find it very uplifting and hilarious (not the burglary part). I also had a relationship with someone who didn’t live with me and we saw each other every 4-5 weeks but I realised I was in it for all the wrong reasons and what you said about the whole ‘not being together properly’ theory made sense to me. I’ve been a walking disaster with men because I consciously chose the wrong ones and settled for the sake of settling. Now that I’ve been single for the past year, and I’ve been busy studying, working & parenting alone – it gets lonely every now and then but the ‘peace’ I feel is just so…nice.

2.    wordmonger 02.06.14 @ 11:19 pm      

   Awwwww thank you Mel. I think I started this blog because I felt like I was inflicting my processing of myself as single on all my friends. It turned out to be a really good thing to do. I get a lot of people wanting the copies of the separation agreements but I’m never sure anyone reads the rest. I really get what you say about the peace and the wrong ones.
   Deb