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Free Separation Agreement
July 19, 2009, 12:28 am
Filed under: economy

I am now the proud owner of a $1001 document that outlines who owns what between my ex and I. That’s cheap! But don’t think it didn’t hurt to transfer the money into the striped suited ones account.

We had waited six months for his lawyer to write a draft. Six months! If I was writing these for a living I’d have a basic template and a basic interview and I’d knock ’em out like buns in a bakery.

To get things moving along I surfed the net to find out what was required and wrote up a draft. Then I got the ex to read it and made some changes. Then I consulted the list of lawyers my colleagues had recommended and contacted the one with the best parking. I told the lawyer I didn’t want to waste money. We set a price. We added a few extras like some arrangements about what we do about Christmas.

Then off it went to his lawyer. A month passed. My ex came up with a change – the sentence he’d contributed to the document wasn’t what he meant. We made the change. Finally word came that the agreement was signed and ready for my X. I drive to my lawyer. Reading through it I saw that my ex and his lawyer have signed the earlier copy. If I’d signed it it would mean an extra ten thousand dollars for me.

I pointed it out. Yeah, I know.

We printed out the right copy I signed that and we sent it off to the sink hole of time management his lawyer seemed to be.

Thursday I heard that the document was completed. Anticlimax. Now we follow the agreement and maybe by the end of the month my house will be mine (and the banks). ‘

If you want a copy of my agreement to use to draft your own just let me know.




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  1.    Kitty 01.31.13 @ 6:58 pm      

    Can I have a copy too? Thanks so much for sharing.

  2.    Dennis 02.09.13 @ 2:12 pm      

    Hi ,I would like a copy of your agreement if you are still giving it out please. Thanks Regards Dennis

  3.    leone 02.10.13 @ 3:05 am      

    Thank you for sharing your information please can I have a copy (must be a epidemic going on) Leone

  4.    Lace 02.19.13 @ 1:35 am      

    Hi there
    Thanks for sharing your story. Would appreciate a copy of the separation agreement.

  5.    Eileen 02.20.13 @ 7:37 am      

    Could you please send me a copy too? Thank you for the useful social service you are doing!

  6.    Andrew 02.25.13 @ 2:29 pm      

    Hi there, I would really love a copy of the agreement if it is still available.

  7.    Will 02.25.13 @ 3:35 pm      

    If you’re still sending it out, I would really appreciate copy. This is such a useful public service, thank you so much!

  8.    japes 03.02.13 @ 2:19 am      

    I’d really appreciate a copy, please. Thank you so much.

    Japes

  9.    Bliss 03.07.13 @ 4:26 am      

    Would love a copy if I can. Every cent given to the lawyer is a cent taken out of my kids’ education!

  10.    desperatetodoit 03.09.13 @ 3:46 am      

    I would love a copy if you are still sharing this document. Many thanks.

  11.    Graeme Robertson 03.16.13 @ 3:47 pm      

    Hi there, can I please have a copy of your agreement? Note that the link you refer to (http://www.separation-international.com/index.php/new-zealand) no longer seems to be available.
    Thanks, Graeme

  12.    Larissa 03.16.13 @ 5:04 pm      

    Is it possible to get a copy please, many thanks

  13.    wordmonger 03.16.13 @ 5:24 pm      

    Sure thing.

  14.    wordmonger 03.16.13 @ 5:25 pm      

    Oh I better check that – thanks for the heads up. You should have my agreements in your inbox now.

  15.    Parris 03.23.13 @ 10:34 pm      

    Hi, please can i get a copy

  16.    wordmonger 03.24.13 @ 1:06 am      

    Here you go – best of luck getting yourself sorted :-)

  17.    Brian Fitzpatrick 03.24.13 @ 6:50 pm      

    I would appreciate a copy of your agreement, many thanks.

  18.    Liz 03.26.13 @ 11:50 pm      

    Hi, I would REALLY appreciate a copy of yout agreement please. Thanks so much an advance. Liz

  19.    wordmonger 03.27.13 @ 12:12 am      

    sure here you go :-)

  20.    wordmonger 03.27.13 @ 12:12 am      

    Hope it helped :-)

  21.    Rose 04.14.13 @ 1:14 pm      

    If poss I would love a copy

  22.    wordmonger 04.14.13 @ 1:19 pm      

    Best of luck and hope this helps.

  23.    Bubble-boy 04.23.13 @ 4:18 pm      

    If you would be as kind as to share a copy with me that would be much appreciated

  24.    Bubble-boy 04.23.13 @ 4:20 pm      

    if you would be as kind as to forward me a copy i would really appreciate it. Thanks

  25.    Aslam 04.25.13 @ 6:46 am      

    Can you send a copy if possible please

  26.    JP 05.12.13 @ 4:45 pm      

    hi, would like a copy of possible. Am in a middle of a separation & was wanting to draft something up. Thanks Much

  27.    Shaun 05.17.13 @ 12:21 pm      

    Could I also pelase get a copy. THanks

  28.    Mrs-no-more 05.29.13 @ 12:50 am      

    Hello, I would really appreciate a copy also please. Thanks for sharing so generously :)

  29.    andrea eden 06.01.13 @ 4:48 am      

    I would appreciate a copy as well, I just don’t know where to start. My daughter and I have been left in WA, whilst my ex is now in Qatar,soon to be thailand, we have a villa in UAE where I don’t believe I have any rights should it all turn pear shaped, and I am coming back to NZ in dec. I haven’t the faintest clue where to start. thanks

  30.    wordmonger 06.03.13 @ 12:55 am      

    Hi I am not sure that this will help and strngly suggest you get legal counsul before you go overseas especially if you have kids. I will send the docs but so please see someone while you are in WA. Best of luck.

  31.    Neila 06.13.13 @ 6:57 pm      

    Could I have a copy too? Thanks so much for sharing it!

  32.    Raquel 06.18.13 @ 6:53 am      

    Hi , could you please send me copy of agreement? Thank you so much.

  33.    wayne harris 06.24.13 @ 2:43 am      

    Hello, we’d appreciate a copy if possible please. Thank you

  34.    wordmonger 06.24.13 @ 3:30 am      

    Sorry I am getting a failure notice when I send to your address. You could try with another email.

  35.    Charles Forbes 10.15.13 @ 4:44 pm      

    Hi
    I would welcome a copy as both Bernice and I are working things out well and do not wish to be burdened with the full cost that is incurred when two lawyers are given the whole task.
    What you are doing is admirable, thank you.

  36.    IrishKiwi 10.20.13 @ 6:52 pm      

    Thanks for sharing. I would appreciate a copy of the separation agreement.

  37.    Robyn 10.21.13 @ 3:10 pm      

    Could I please have a copy as we are in agreement but just need a document for the bank. Excellecnt story.

  38.    lain pither 10.22.13 @ 2:53 am      

    Hi can I please have a copy of agreement. Thankyou

  39.    Kate 11.07.13 @ 2:55 pm      

    Can we have a copy? Thanks

  40.    Danielle 11.08.13 @ 8:41 pm      

    Hiya
    Id really like a copy of your agreement if its still available.
    Thanks

  41.    wordmonger 11.08.13 @ 10:19 pm      

    It’s still available I’ll send …

  42.    wordmonger 11.08.13 @ 10:20 pm      

    Hope that was helpful for you.

  43.    wordmonger 11.08.13 @ 10:20 pm      

    No problem, hope it helps.

  44.    wordmonger 11.08.13 @ 10:21 pm      

    great you can work together on the process, hope the agreements were useful to you.

  45.    wordmonger 11.08.13 @ 10:21 pm      

    Hope the agreements helped you sort things.

  46.    Kim 11.10.13 @ 9:26 pm      

    I would really appreciate a copy too please, thanks.

  47.    Russell 11.14.13 @ 1:24 am      

    Would really appreciate a copy of your agreement as well. Thank you so much for sharing. Its great when you can create something positive out of a negative situation and you have done exactly that. Well done.

  48.    Russell 11.14.13 @ 1:26 am      

    Would love a copy too if you don’t mind. Would really appreciate it.

  49.    wordmonger 11.26.13 @ 5:03 pm      

    hey I can’t recall if I sent yours out or not? If not just holler! Sometimes I open up my email with my phone and miss flagging these requests.

  50.    wordmonger 11.26.13 @ 5:03 pm      

    Hope the agreements were helpful.



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